Feminism Friday: We need a change

Feminism Friday

I briefly mentioned in last week’s Feminism Friday about being disappointed that once again following the death of a woman, we were being advised to not walk in parks alone. It seemed to erupt on Twitter and everywhere else about how feminists were attacking the detective for what was common sense. The thing is, we weren’t attacking him. I’m sure he’s just as helpless as us. But the thing is, we need a change in the system. We need a change in sentencing laws — something that will well and truly bring about change. Amy probably explains this in a clearer way than I ever can.

This week, I read some incredible articles by bloggers on domestic violence. Given that so far, almost 2 Australian women have been killed by a partner or ex-partner just this year, these articles are so relevant and so important. Dorothy wrote about what you can do to help someone experiencing domestic violence. One of the biggest problems is that people tend to judge the woman for not leaving. Dorothy explains why women don’t leave. You must read her blog as she shares a lot of her own experience. Jess‘ post was another one that touched me this week. It was about growing up with an abusive father and is a raw and heart-wrenching read. Once again though, it clearly explains why women don’t leave.

So you see, something has to be done at a government level. Women are vigilant anyway. I think we have had to learn to do that. But when it’s your partner who is the perpetrator, no amount of vigilance is going to help. We need a cultural change and a systemic change. While we can continue to voice our need for change through social media, in the end, we need the people in power to implement the changes.

We need a change at the top.

Are you just as tired as I am to be told not to do things or go places just because of your gender?

Do share.

***Linking with Grace for FYBF and Ann for Things I Know***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!


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The Plan

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I see you look at me
Suspicious of my smile
I know you’d be happier
On seeing me cry

I try to act normal
Unfazed by the black and blue
Because come tomorrow morning
I’m finally leaving for a life brand new

(c) Sanch – Living my Imperfect Life

 

Image Source: Unsplash

Until next time,

Cheers!!!


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The ocean and me

The last few weeks have been crazy for me. I guess that’s an understatement. I was juggling uni homework {which we get on a weekly basis}, readings {also weekly}, work, my online copywriting course {also with weekly homework} and blogging. What had to give was my sleep.

And last week, I crashed.

I had a couple of full-on days at work on Monday and Tuesday and then came home to wonderful housework and cooking {I hate that} resulting in another late night on Tuesday. It had been over a week of sleeping after 11 and waking up at 5. Not cool. Wednesday, I almost fell asleep at a work meeting. That was a bit embarrassing. Although I guess it could have been worse — I could have fallen asleep during a session with a client. I had to miss uni that night because I was so tired that I went home and slept. It helped. Just a bit. By Friday, I was exhausted.

Luckily, I went away with a group of my friends for the weekend. I was counting down to that. We went down to the South Coast to Hyams beach. The same place we’d been to in December 2014. It was a relaxing weekend barring the hike up Pigeon House Mountain. I slept in till 830 on both days. Unusual for me but that’s how tired I was.

View from the top of Pigeon House Mountain

View from the top of Pigeon House Mountain

On Sunday, after breakfast at the little cafe, we walked to Hyams beach. It was overcast, almost rainy. But in those few moments of feeling the white sand on my feet and the watching the steady blue waves, I was transported to my happy place.  It was even better when I let the waves hit me and felt the just-right temperature of the water. I wanted to swim. But I didn’t have my swimmers on me at the time. Instead, I just soaked it all in. It was perfect.

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The whitest sand

 

 

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The most gorgeous hues of blue

 

I wished Mr Imperfect had come along too — he would have loved it being the water-baby he is. But I figured we’d visit again soon. Together.

In the mean time, I just enjoyed it all. Being there. Being thankful for all I have.

Being awestruck that I can visit this wonderful place by just driving for two hours.

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Blissful moments

 

I love what the ocean does to me.

What’s your perfectly happy place? 

Do share!

***Linking with Kylie for One Perfect Moment and Jess for IBOT***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!


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A to Z Challenge 2015 Theme Reveal #atozchallenge

Last year, I participated in the A to Z Challenge for the very first time ever. It was an interesting experience which started off great but drained me by the end due to lack of scheduling posts and well, being busy with life at the same time. I did survive in the end but didn’t engage as much as I would have liked. The one thing that made it easier though was having a theme. Without it, I think my exhaustion would have killed my creativity and well, nothing would have been written for some of those days. But because I had a plan, I was still able to squeeze my posts in at the scheduled time.

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For this year, I have decided on a theme and am keeping it short and sweet. And a bit funny. I hope. My A to Z Challenge 2015 Theme is:

The A to Z of Phobias in the form of limericks

I thought it would be amusing to write about unusual phobias and figured I could do it creatively by writing them in the form of a limerick. A limerick is a form of poetry written in 5 lines with a strict rhyme scheme of AABBA. As for a list of phobias, the internet is a great source for funny phobias such as the fear of Friday the 13th or the fear of bathing. I won’t be poking fun at more serious phobias, of course, {e.g. agoraphobia} but I think we can all agree that some other phobias are not as debilitating.

Are you participating in the A to Z Challenge this year? If you want to, you can still sign up for it.

A theme is not necessary, but it helps. If you are participating, have you got a theme? You can check out some other theme reveals while you write your own.

Until next time,

Cheers!!!


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Feminism Friday: Women authors #feminismfriday

Feminism Friday

Last week in one of my classes, there was this discussion about how women authors, particularly in America, continue to not be taken as seriously as their male counterparts. It was only a brief discussion but one that I had heard before when I had attended a talk by Lionel Shriver. I remember Shriver talking about how Jonathan Franzen was revered in the US {and I did enjoy his book The Corrections}, but basically, what he was writing about was about families and commenting on society. Just like several women authors. Yet, the women authors writing about dysfunctional families get classified as ‘women’s literary fiction’ instead of just fiction like the male authors. You may think this doesn’t have much of an impact but it does: it means that women authors continue to have a smaller audience than male authors.

Also, I’m not sure if you know but J. K. Rowling used her initials based on the suggestions of her publishers because apparently, no one would want to read a book on wizards written by a female author. I mean, I can understand authors like George Eliot needing to use a male pseudonym back in the day but quite obviously, this kind of discrimination in the writing world continues to exist.

This week as I trawled the web, I was disappointed to find that yet again, women are being told to not do something — this time it is to go for walks in the park by themselves. This occurred after a 17-year-old was stabbed to death in Victoria. Once again, while I get the need to be cautious, I don’t get the stress made on just females. Males get stabbed too but you don’t hear cops telling men it’s not safe to go out drinking at night or to the pub! But a woman gets killed and it’s not safe for women to go to parks. How about telling the murderers not to murder and rapists not to rape?? Gah!

Apart from that it was disheartening to read about an Australian actress, Marta Dusseldorp, having to withdraw from a major theatre production because the director did not approve of her breastfeeding. Um, equal employment opportunity, anyone? Surely he has to face some kind of consequence for this discrimination! Finally, this song by Megan Trainor {who I’d never heard of until this week} will make you want to punch your fist through a wall. In her song, Dear Future Husband, she basically undoes what years of feminism have done.

I guess it’s time for some good stuff now.

I read this wonderful article on consent. It explains what consent for sex is in simple terms. I’m sure anyone with half a brain would get it. Totally recommend reading it! Soumya wrote a wonderful poem on India’s Daughter. Amy wrote this piece on pregnancy abs {who knew such a thing existed!} and how, unfortunately, the entire world seems to have an opinion on a woman’s body. Finally, I loved this article which had 12 women give some brilliant answers as to why they don’t have kids. I notice that when Mr Imperfect and I tell people we are not interested in having children, I am usually the one everyone tries to advise why it’s so good to have kids. No one ever tries telling him that. Our answer is that they don’t come with a returns policy.

What’s your view on male and female authors? Do you notice the double standards? 

Have you got any great articles or advice to share this week?

Do share!

***Linking with Grace for FYBF and Ann for Things I Know***

Until next time,

Cheers!!!


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