Home is where the heart is

April 10, 2017

This coming weekend will mark six months since I moved from the Sutherland Shire to the Central Coast. Six months since I gave up all things familiar to move someplace I’d visited only once before. Six months since I left all the friends I’ve made in the last eleven years to move to place where I know no one.

So what has it been like?

Work has been great. I can’t complain. In that sense, I’ve made the best decision. I love my team and I think they are the most awesome people who make going to work each day enjoyable. Being back in mental health and helping teenagers is giving me meaning again. I love the job. I love what I do.

The move to the Central Coast?

I enjoy the laid back lifestyle and how the beaches are plentiful. I like that I am a five minute drive to a beach and if I wanted to drive further, I’d have other beaches easily available. I like being surrounded by trees, mountains and beaches. Nature. Everywhere. I love that it takes me twenty minutes to get to work and that I have lost most of my road rage. I like that the cats have a backyard to explore and enjoy. I like there are hipster places and laid back people.

I’m still trying to meet people, of course. There are some lovely women I’ve met through some Meetup groups including my book club.  Some girls at the gym are friendly. But I know it will take time. Meanwhile, I’m still trying to explore. To find things like yoga classes. To find more ethnic food. And I wish places like cafes or libraries were open late.

So it’s still a work in progress.

And yet.

View from Tom Ugly’s Bridge towards Captain Cook Bridge

I miss home. I miss the Shire. I miss the beautiful south. I miss the proximity to the South Coast. I miss my beautiful two-bedroom unit with its red-brick exterior. I miss seeing the cats staring at me from the first floor window as I drive in to the garage. I miss the north-facing balcony where the sun shines during the day. I miss driving to Wanda beach, fifteen minutes away. I miss walking along those side streets and watching the Georges River. I miss driving along Tom Ugly’s bridge and knowing I’m coming home. I miss it so much that the last time I passed through the Shire to head to the south coast, I cried. I felt my heart actually ache with longing. I didn’t know a place could do that to a person.

I don’t miss Sydney in general. That much I safely know. I don’t miss the traffic, the crazy drivers, the traffic, the busyness. I can visit it and then I’m happy to get back on the freeway or on the train up to the coast.

But my heart?

It still remains in the Shire.

The place I called home for seven years. The place that felt like home twelve years ago.

***Linking with Mackenzie for MG, Corinne for Monday Musings and Kylie for IBOT***

Until next time,


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  • Reply Ishieta@Isheeria's April 11, 2017 at 12:01 AM

    I love this post! I love your new home 🙂 It sounds like my kinda home! and i deeply understand your missing your older home. I have moved homes too, rebuilt from scratch, and sometimes the simplest of things I miss! I revisit in my mind, but my heart still wishes that I could merge all my past, present & future houses and call them home 🙂
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  • Reply Annette, Four Acorns April 11, 2017 at 3:06 AM

    Oh I feel for you! I’ve had similar experiences in the past, and it is never easy to settle down in a new place. It does take time. One of my lifelines when we moved to different countries was seeking out expat groups/societies, etc. Best of luck, I’m sure it’ll get easier in time.

  • Reply Ashleigh - April 11, 2017 at 5:53 AM

    It will become home. These things take time. When I moved to London I hated it for the first 18 months, then after four years I howled and howled when I left. It took time, but a piece of me is still there. When I am back from Bali we will have to head up for a winter hike!
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  • Reply Sue from Sizzling Towards 60 & Beyond April 11, 2017 at 6:04 AM

    Moving is such a huge experience isn’t it! I moved from Kiama to Brisbane 33 years ago and felt I had moved to another planet. It is great that you have joined the gym and book club and of course the area does have a laid back feel. Born and raised in Sydney that will always be where my heart is although I have come to love my home in Brisbane. At least your new home it isn’t to far away for a weekend back to the Shire. My cousin lives there and I know Tom Ugly’s Bridge well. Have a great week.

  • Reply Renee Wilson April 11, 2017 at 7:16 AM

    Aww. It sounds like there’s so much to love about your new home, but so much to miss about your old one too. It’s only six months. Be kind to yourself. It will really feel like home soon enough 🙂 #teamIBOT
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  • Reply Eli April 11, 2017 at 7:17 AM

    Gorgeous my dear! Love this post:-)Home is where your heart is sweetie:- )
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  • Reply Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit April 11, 2017 at 7:27 AM

    So much to love and so much to miss. So lovely to have such great memories as you make new ones.
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  • Reply Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid April 11, 2017 at 7:49 AM

    I know six months seems like forever, but in the big scheme of things, it’s like the blink of an eye. I bet if you fast forward another 11 years, you’ll have made as many magic memories up the coast as you did in the Shire, if not more. And the best bit is, that the Shire and your people in it will always be there for you 🙂
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  • Reply Nicole @ The Builder's Wife April 11, 2017 at 8:50 AM

    Settling in is not an easy thing to do. I love the look and the sound of your new home. I hope that it quickly becomes the home of your dreams xxx

  • Reply Tracy April 11, 2017 at 9:26 AM

    The hardest moves I’ve made in my life are the ones where I’ve lost my tribe. Being known by people with whom you share a story is so precious and you don’t realise how important that is until you need to leave it to go somewhere else. Hopefully the beautiful spot you’ve landed will help during the transition to building a new tribe for yourself.

  • Reply Natalie April 11, 2017 at 9:58 AM

    It takes a lot of courage to make such a big move and it looks like you are working really hard to make it work. Beautiful surrounding is a great start to get the mind right.

  • Reply Vanessa April 11, 2017 at 10:18 AM

    Isn’t there usually a stage, quite a few months into a move/exchange/etc, where it seems worse? Either way, it sounds like a good move overall, but I think it’s also ok to miss where you were. We’ve talked about moving but frankly I just don’t know how we would replace some of the stuff we’re lucky to have.
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  • Reply Shantala April 11, 2017 at 12:46 PM

    Ah I understand. It is difficult to just pick up and leave from a place where you had grown roots. But like you yourself have experienced, not all change is bad. Sometimes it is very good. Be easy on yourself and give it time.
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  • Reply Deb @ inner compass designs April 11, 2017 at 1:46 PM

    I hope the rest of the year sees you finding all the people and places that make it more your home. It takes ages to really settle and have friends and routines and things that make it truly home. Totally normal to miss the old though so big hugs.
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  • Reply Lata Sunil April 11, 2017 at 1:57 PM

    We do get attached to places. Two weeks back I visited my childhood friends and the moment I turned into my childhood neighbourhood, I was overwhelmed. I do not know why I felt like that. But, it is part of our lives, the familiar and comfortable life.
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  • Reply Janet Camilleri aka Middle Aged Mama April 11, 2017 at 3:43 PM

    It does take time to settle in somewhere new. I shifted to the other side of town when I married my Bear and I’m sure I cried every weekend for the first year, I was so lonely! (I blogged about it here:
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  • Reply Amy @ HandbagMafia April 11, 2017 at 4:18 PM

    You can take a girl out of the shire, eh 🙂
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  • Reply Fab April 13, 2017 at 3:11 PM

    Aww, you’re homesick!!! Well, I guess you’ll soon get used to the new place too and before you know it, it’s what’ll feel like home!

  • Reply Rachna April 13, 2017 at 4:29 PM

    I can completely understand. The place that you called home for 7 years has a deep spot in your heart and I guess it always will. But I am sure that you are building good bonds with the new place. Heartening to know that you love your work and that your commute is just 20 minutes. Really jealous of you for that. 5 minutes away from the beach — wow! Wishing you the best, Sanch.

  • Reply vaidehi April 15, 2017 at 12:00 AM

    Yes dear,
    I can completely understand how it feels.And I had the same feeling when I moved to Australia from India.

  • Reply Mackenzie Glanville April 15, 2017 at 10:49 AM

    Oh honey it is so hard when you go to a new place, as beautiful as it is when you miss friendships it is so hard. Keep putting yourself out there, meeting new people and forming friendships will make it feel more like home. It can be hard meeting people but we have to push ourselves or we just get so lonely. You are such an amazing person and I hope you find all the happiness you deserve xx #mg
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