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My lack of self-discipline #FridayReflections

January 13, 2017

You know those people who follow healthy habits, achieve all their goals and basically accomplish anything they put their minds to? I’m NOT one of those people. Sure I achieve goals. Sure I can accomplish some things I put my mind to. But most of the time, I endure setbacks.

Over time, I’ve come to realise it’s because of my lack of self-discipline.

Take my health, for instance. I know what I need to do to keep healthy. Exercise regularly and eat healthy. While I can be reasonably disciplined with the exercise, I always fail at the eating. Unless I’m held accountable. If I can eat junk food, I will — in spite of knowing I feel like crap after! I’ll have that bite of chocolate or that packet of chips instead of telling myself the sugar and the preservatives are likely to kill me.

Or I know I need eight hours of sleep. Yet, I will get distracted by writing, blogging and tidying up. This is even after I set an alarm to remind myself to start winding down! Then there’s writing. I’ve tried NaNoWriMo twice and given up both times. I don’t have the self-discipline to persist. Even now, I have so many ideas for books and stories but do I have the discipline to just do it? Nope.

So what do I do to increase my discipline?


I realise I am one of those people who has to be accountable to others. Without the accountability, I don’t seem to keep at things. Maybe it comes from being someone who wanted to live up to expectations of parents and others at a young age. Or maybe it comes from being a people-pleaser too. Either way, accountability is what works well for me to stick with things.

No temptations

The other thing that works is getting rid of temptations. Of course, this is more with my diet and healthy eating habits. If I don’t have crap, I’m not going to eat it.

Reduce the criticism

I think when I do slip up, I need to learn to not beat myself up as much as I do. I am harsh. I call myself names. Names I wouldn’t call others. But in the process, I think it demotivates me further and I’m more likely to slip up soon after. Just as an example, I caved yesterday and ate some chocolates at work instead of my healthy snack. I felt like crap. And then called myself a pig for doing this. Result? I felt crappier and ended up having take-out for dinner! Gah! Forgiveness would probably go a long way!

How are you with self-discipline? Any tips?

Would you like to be my accountability partner? {I’m serious…let me know and I’ll be in touch}

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Prompts for this week:

1. Self-discipline: how strong is yours?
2. Recipe you would like to share
3. Surprises – giving or receiving, which is better? Share some stories.
4. “Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn’t stop for anybody.” – Stephen Chbosky, Perks of being a Wallflower. Use this quote within your post or as an inspiration for one
5. Picture Prompt (credit: Living my Imperfect Life)

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Until next time,


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  • Reply Anthea January 13, 2017 at 7:03 PM

    I can relate to this! Every Monday I aim for numerous trips to the gym combined with healthy eating and get irritated with myself when Friday rolls around I haven’t done as much as I had hoped for.

    NaNoWriMo is alot of fun and I have managed to finish the four I started – it is not easy to motivate yourself for 30 days but I end up telling others and find the encouragement received keeps me going! I love to write and tell myself that it is one month I give myself to let the creativity flow for 30 continuous days.

    • Reply Sanchie @ Living my Imperfect Life January 14, 2017 at 8:23 AM

      It’s so hard to get into that habit, isn’t it? But I’m impressed with your attempts at NaNoWriMo…might pick you brain for that this year! 😀 Thanks for visiting! 🙂

  • Reply Sunaina Sharma January 13, 2017 at 10:24 PM

    I can totally relate to what you are saying….I was really good before I started blogging…..ouch that confession hurts…but yes it is true……Ever since I started writing, I gave everything else a backseat…..But lately I have realized that I need to take things back in control….I am startinh with small things – like not checking my phone every now and then – that reduces the temptation to respond immediately to any comments I get and helps me steer away from grumpiness when I don’t get any response…..As far as food is concerned, I am telling myself everyday to make conscious choices as I am setting example before my children….that is kind of stressful and I often fail but I still keep reminding….Exercise – that is something I need to work out on….:)…..

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  • Reply Menaka Bharathi January 14, 2017 at 12:08 AM

    true, self discipline is very important, however I am one of those who goes by the saying – by living a disciplined life you would only increase your old age and cannot bring back your youth. I would love some chocolates and chips, but when I need to go to a function I feel so pathetic and curse myself for all those *crap I had!!
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  • Reply Ashleigh - January 15, 2017 at 8:17 PM

    It is so funny because the grass is always greener from the outside. I’m always envious about your dedication to reading and how my poss you can write. I go through on and off phases with food and the gym, but now I’m doing that, my writing has given way. Some things are give and take I find, be kinder to yourself!
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  • Reply SHALINI BAISIWALA January 17, 2017 at 9:13 PM

    I loved your lists and reasons! I agree that being accountable to someone works as the perfect discipline to keep one in line but then its too much dependence on someone/thing… I feel you should set smaller goals with biggier rewards for yourself and tell yourself that you can do it!
    I used to eat a lot of junk, procrastinate on things (still do) but I have consciously started saying No to myself for things. I shope brocery for myself and have made it a habit to buy only as much as a I need for a week as I have to lug it up two flights of stairs too. I have removed all namkeen n stuff from my house; am a big time chocoholic. I landed at Delhi airport after a trip and bought 2000/- worth of chocs from the duty free, cursed myself…. Then I sat down and had a talk with myself and trust me – all of it is lyingin the house since a month and I have like nibbled on maybe 2 pcs only so far..
    I eat them only to reward myself for something now – try it!!

  • Reply J.Gi Federizo January 18, 2017 at 4:11 PM

    Finally! A similarity between us! (Not that I’m proud of it, LOL). I’ve always thought of you as a go-getter.

    I do hope I can commit to what I always promise myself to do. I try. Sometimes I win, many times I don’t. but will try again.
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    • Reply Sanchie @ Living my Imperfect Life January 18, 2017 at 7:55 PM

      Haha…yeah I can be super determined with some things but other things fall by the wayside. Even the things I’m determined with, it’s usually because I’m accountable

      • Reply J.Gi Federizo February 2, 2017 at 1:19 PM

        Yeah, you mentioned in your latest post about being accountable. That’s a good way to do it. I’ve always held myself accountable for others. But maybe this time, I should look more at myself and be more accountable, too.
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  • Reply J.Gi Federizo January 18, 2017 at 4:15 PM

    BTW, I’d like to do one of the prompts this week. Where do I link up exactly? Sorry if I sound like a dunce but I really do not know.
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