We are all going to die one day. Some of us will be more fortunate and see it coming. For others, it might be more sudden. How do we know then, if we have lived a good life? Will we have regrets? A recent qualitative study with people in palliative care showed that people typically have five regrets when they are dying.
People mainly regret not pursuing their dreams and aspirations and instead conforming to what society expects them to do. Additionally, they regret not expressing their feelings, working too hard and letting it get in the way of their family life, losing touch with friends and not letting themselves be happier.
It made me wonder about my life. It made me wonder about what I would regret if I were to die. Would I regret growing apart from some people? Would I regret how hard I’m working? Would I regret letting some people go?
I’m making changes. Slowly but surely.
I am doing my best to connect and re-connect. I have been making an effort to go out and meet new people but also make sure I connect with those I know. I have been reaching out and inviting people over, organising things with new friends I’ve made, being open and authentic while trying to keep the connections going.
While I don’t see the problem in working hard, I’m also trying to slow down and not work like a crazy person for over 50 hours a week. It starts this week with me having time to focus on things like writing, reading, listening to music or even just daydreaming and creating.
One thing I notice about myself is that I want to keep busy. To keep going from one thing to the next. Sometimes I wonder if I’m searching for happiness. For the big thing that will somehow miraculously make me content for life. Realistically though I know it is about the little things. The everyday stuff. I need to make a conscious effort to focus on that.
As I continue to work on myself, I hope to right some wrongs of the past. I hope to reach out and be big enough to apologise to those I may have hurt in some ways. It will require being vulnerable and courageous but I hope I can get to a stage where I can do that.
Maybe then, when I die one day, I will have few regrets.
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