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To err is human #FridayReflections

June 9, 2017

We all make mistakes. We need to make them in order to improve ourselves. To learn from them. But what happens when we don’t learn from them? When we continue to do the same thing over and over?

As I reflect on my life, I can’t help but wonder that. I have certainly learnt from a lot of mistakes I’ve made. Like when I was a kid, I learnt the hard way that lying wasn’t going to help me get out of trouble. That it only made things worse.

During my teenage years, I learnt lessons about the type of people I could trust and those I couldn’t. The ones I could share notes with. The ones I could depend on. Sure, I got burnt but I used those as lessons. I learnt that by avoiding things that scared me, I actually felt worse.

But somehow, there seems to be one thing I haven’t learned from.

My mistakes in relationships.

I appear to make the same mistakes. My stubbornness for instance is one of the biggest problems. I’m aware of it and yet I let it get in the way over and over again. Then there’s my inability to let things go. This is something I’ve found hard to do since a young age. To forgive AND forget. It’s a mistake I make over and over in relationships where I don’t forget and I’ll dredge up the past in every disagreement which makes the current one harder to resolve. Finally, there’s my rigidity with regards to certain beliefs and ways in which things should be done which then affects my relationships. Sure, this could be linked to the stubbornness but it’s a mistake I still haven’t learned from.

To err is human, they say. But to repeat the same mistakes over and over?

That’s got to be plain stupidity, right?

It’s time for me to take a look at myself and while I can try and be compassionate, I also need to realise some changes are in store if I want to be more content and relaxed in life.

What mistakes do you tend to repeat?

Do share!

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Prompts for 9th June 2017:

1. Write a piece about coming out of the dark and seeing the light
2.Write a post about making mistakes
3. Think about a place you went to when you were younger. Share your memories as well as thoughts on how it has changed.
4.“The shattering of a heart when being broken is the loudest quiet ever.”
― Carroll Bryant
5. Picture prompt (credit: Godyears)

Our featured writer for 2nd June was Darshana for her unique take on Coffee or Tea. If you want to be in the running for our featured writer, all you need to do is write on one of the prompts above and link up below. Come back on Monday and vote for your favourite post {preferably not your own!}

Until next time,


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  • Reply Ness June 10, 2017 at 8:42 AM

    Yeah, I also want to be more relaxed and contented. I don’t seem to learn from some of my mistakes either. Sigh. It’s hard, isn’t it? At least we’re recognising it and trying. Baby steps, right?

  • Reply The Unknown Journey Ahead June 11, 2017 at 10:46 AM

    I don’t know if it’s a mistake, but I struggle (and have struggled for years) with emotional eating. I think I learn my lesson, and then…a situation happens and I do it again. Why? I know better and I know the consequences to my body. But it still happens. At least, as Ness says, we know what we are doing….baby steps.

  • Reply Lost In The Woods #FridayReflections - Everyday Gyaan June 11, 2017 at 6:38 PM

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  • Reply Sunita Saldhana June 12, 2017 at 12:13 PM

    Relationships is a big pit of mistakes for me as well. I can’t seem to live my own life for fear of hurting those who claim they love me and know what’s good for me.

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